Sunday 20 May 2018

Lifestyle

my real gayfriends

16/01/2018

Friendships are needed to not always be alone to be. Unfortunately, thanks to the use of smartphones and social networks, our friendships are rather virtual. What are our real friends?

Loneliness, difficulties to have contact with other gays and grief. These are often elements that we often find in the gay world.

Many causes can be found in the coming-out period. Coming-out often does not run as we expect. This is normal, everything needs its time. But many often have many expectations and requirements during their coming out.

We are who we are.

Often it is 'I' thinking that everything will go wrong. We give or think that we give a bad self-image to others. Generally we ignore signals from others and are very selective in the choice we make.

We have become much more careful after our comming-out and build walls around us.

Being careful sometimes is necessary because there are many donkeys and fakers in the area.

But we must not make everyone bad, we have to understand what happens and courage to have contacts. And this with everyone, whether it is your type or not. Friendships are not relationships.

We can not force relationships or friendships. Everything must be done spontaneously and we can never have many expectations. Go ahead and free yourself.

You can never reject someone, of course outside the donkeys, but you have to put energy and have patience to make the right contacts. Learn from the experiences of others.



For the first time, go away from social networks. These are often not social enough to look for friends. You can have a lot of friends or 'likes', but these are . Dating apps are to date and make intimate contacts, not to seek friendships.  Go to gay bars better and look for peace and conviviality. Do not be selective and look around how other gays interact. Look and learn from their experiences and make friendships.

If you then have your first friends, it is more important to keep them. We are in a community that supports each other and you in the future also as a family. Stop contacting message services with each other. Not with messages from 'hey' or 'how are you', but ask direct questions: 'Are you at that party too?' 'Have you seen that new movie?' "Do you want to have a drink later?" .

It is important that you get to know each other. Go to a birthday party, go to the cinema or drink something.

Loneliness must be avoided. Friendships are there to have, but certainly not to abuse. There are a few rules about friendships: 'Never require anything or make heavy demands', 'Keep to your meeting appointments', 'give each other space' and 'be honest'.



And the most important rule too: "By the way, friends never lend money to each other." So when someone asks to borrow money, say 'no'. This is not to say that you pay a liquor bill once. But never borrowing real money.


© Gaybars Lifestyle 60 - 16/01/2018


Europe

Year of the Women* in Schwulen Museum Berlin
[22/04/2018]

Year of the Women* / Jahr der Frau_en at the Schwules Museum Berlin from 1 jan to 31 dec 2018. Study on gender discrimination in the art world. Exhibition, lectures, leadership and discussion.

Belgium

Belgian Pride 2018 in Brussels
[19/05/2018]

The 23rd Belgian Pride gathered more than 100,000 people on the streets of Brussels on Saturday afternoon.

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Bart Varakas is Mister Leather Belgium 2018
[24/02/2018]

In Belgium Leather Pride Bart Varakas was elected Mister Leather Belgium 2018. Bart won from four participating candidates,

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LeatherPride Belgium 2018
[20/02/2018]

For the 9the edition of the LeatherPride Belgium in 2018, the go further to taking it to the next level.Each year many new and innovative initiatives are added to the programme.

Mr Leather Europe Joe King about everyone wellcome
[16/02/2018]

Everybody Wellcome seeks to address issues around the lack of inclusivity in the European leather scene. Presentation by Mr Leather Europe Joe King.

The work of REX exhibition REXWORLD retrospective
[28/01/2018]

The "work of REX" was decades ahead of it's time, and a precursor of our gay world today. February 23-25 ,2018 - exhibition REXWORLD-retrospective in Antwerp,

[VIDEO]
United Queens
[16/01/2018]

Some call them transvestites, the other Drag Queens. They choose themselves often for the name Show Queen.

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The 8th edition of The Cruise in 2018
[25/11/2017]

The 8th edition of The Cruise powered by LA DEMENCE is going back to the Mediterranean Sea with a departure from Barcelona to Palermo, Catania, Malta, Palma de Mallorca and back to Barcelona.

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Julien Guilmain is Mister Bear Belgium 2018
[16/10/2017]

Julien Guilmain is Mister Bear Belgium 2018. It was a very successful edition with a sparkling show.

100000 visitors and participants on Antwerp Pride Parade 2017
[12/08/2017]

At the Pride Parade at Antwerp Pride 2017 there were no fewer than 100000 visitors and participants. Also the Love United Festival can count on many celebrating visitors. Rain weather causes less turnout than last year.

[VIDEO]
New event Pride Night at Antwerp Pride
[09/08/2017]

Antwerp Pride Night is a brand new initiative by some of Antwerp's leading openminded parties: Pride Nighton on saterday Antwerp Pride.

Also rainbow zebra crossings in Antwerp to Suikerrui and Minderbroedersrui
[07/08/2017]

Antwerp also receives Antwerp Pride rainbow walkways. The two locations are the junction of the Suikerrui with the Ernest Van Dijckkaai and at the intersection of Lange Koepoortstraat with the Minderbroedersrui and St. Paul's Square.

[VIDEO]
10 years Antwerp Pride 2017 Anniversary edition
[05/07/2017]

Ten years Antwerp Pride, ten years 'love united'. The history of these 10 years and the Anniversary edition.

Jaimie Deblieck is Mister Gay Belgium 2017.
[28/05/2017]

In the final gala of Mister Gay Belgium on Sunday, May 27, 2017 in Theater Elckerlyc in Antwerp, 18-year-old Jaimie Deblieck from Roeselare (B) chose as Mister Gay Belgium 2017.

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More then 90000 visitors on the 22th Belgian Pride
[17/05/2017]

90000 visitors on the 22th Belgian Pride 2017 parade on may,6 . Big sunsine in the afternoon , and lot of music and people all over the country.

[VIDEO]
Leather and F*tish pride Belgium
[24/11/2016]

From 15-20 February 2017, the 8th edition of Leather & F*tish Pride Belgium will take place in Antwerp.

Netherlands

Several gays were attacked from Grindr date
[02/04/2018]

In Dordecht (Netherlands), several gayss were lured into the trap and attacked after dating with dating app Grindr.

Bear - Necessity celebrates 10th Anniversary
[11/01/2018]

Famous Bear - Necessity celebrates 10th Anniversary on 3rd February 2018 at Club Panama Amsterdam.Until now, Bear-Necessity has organized more than 130 parties in many countries.

Raymond is Mister Leather Europe 2017
[29/10/2017]

Raymond is Mister Leather Europe 2017. Hij kreeg de Shag van de vorige Mr Leather Europe 2016 na een schitterende euroshow en met felicitaties van het publiek.

[VIDEO]
Evert Leerson is Mister Leather Netherlands 2018
[28/10/2017]

Evert Leerson is 1ste Mister Leather Netherlands 2018 . Evert got the title of the five-piece jury and the audience.

[VIDEO]
Canal Parade Pride Amsterdam
[05/08/2017]

The Canal Parade has started . The best free festival of the year! The Canal Parade starts at 13.00hrs at the Oosterdok port

[VIDEO]
Amsterdam Pride 2017 started
[27/07/2017]

The Pride of Amsterdam starts from 29 July to 6 August 2017. The festival lasts nine days and the highlight is the annual Canal Parade on Saturday, August 5th.

Gaybars may open late hours at Gaypride Amsterdam
[06/07/2017]

Gaybars may open late hours during Gaypride Amsterdam. The exemptions on opening hours are therefore permitted.

Marcel van Doorn is Mister Bear Netherlands 2017
[08/03/2017]

Marcel van Doorn is the proud Mister Bear Netherlands 2017. He is 44, lives in Amsterdam and Paris and works in the fashion world.

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